P.s I love you: Committed
By Andrew Pacutho, Uganda:
No one said love was easy…at least that is what I think they should have said. Love is hard. But love, at least the feeling of being in love, is illusory in nature. Halt, don't press the panic button. Let me reassure you, I love you.
What I mean to say is that the butterflies never last. They all fade and die away as the excitement of the wedding passes and the routine of everyday life sets in. I know this is different from most of my letters but I have been thinking and seeking advice on how to make this work. I don't want us to be another statistic of what marriage has become in this day and age; a dismal failure after a painful torturous journey.
So after the busy day has set and the silent night has risen with the moon I lay on my bed and think and seek. When all the excitement of love has gone what remains? What keeps marriages going for ages to come? Many theories spun through my head and many works spoken and written flittered in and out of my thoughts but one that came and refused to leave was the word commitment.
That is the core of love. Commitment! I do not know what else it can be save that.
And so my love, I am committed to loving you long after the butterflies are long gone.
I am committed to doing all that would keep that beautiful smile on your face.
I am committed to you when you don't feel like it.
I am committed to you when I don't feel like it.
I am committed in the good and I shall remain so in the bad.
Through the valleys and at the highest mountain top I am committed.
I am committed to protecting you the best way I know how.
I am committed to trying not to snore too much if it drives you nuts.
I am committed on finding new ways to make this spicy.
I will be committed on Sunday, on dreaded Mondays, on Tuesdays, even on Wednesdays, through Thursdays and especially on Fridays and Saturdays.
I am committed to loving you in the morning, in the noontime and evening too.
I don't know how else I can say this but one thing is true, even though I am a mortal man, and to err is human, I will do everything in my power to keep the covenant I made before God and your parents and all our friends and relatives. I wait anxiously for that day.
To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, in riches and in poverty, in good times and in bad, I am committed to you and only death shall nullify that.