Reflections

Love is an essential component of life

By Lebogang Sewale:

Love is the single most powerful and necessary component in life. Love is the origin and foundation of all relationships. Every person needs and has the capacity to connect with other people, referred as bonding; bonding is the ultimate emotional connection. You cannot bond without love. Love establishes a reliable base on which bonding can be build.

While love, compassion and empathy are interactive, they still manifest duality; the lover and the beloved. The emphasis is on an individual's feelings, not necessarily on mutuality. Love means connecting, not only feeling for another person, but being attached to one another. Not just a token of commitment, but total devotion. Love is the emotional spine of the human psyche. Every person needs love to flourish and grow, between mother and child, girlfriend and boyfriend and between friends.

An essential component of love is its endurance; its ability to withstand challenges and setbacks. Without endurance there is no chance to develop true love.

With young people of today, when it comes to what is called “boyfriend and girlfriend” you'll hear “love hurts, love is difficult, love betrays”. It's confusing how a strong positive word can have such negative connotations. Oh well maybe! In my view Love can never hurt; he hurts you and she hurts you. Whenever hurt and betrayal enter the room love exists; you are being hurt by the nature and behaviour of a human being not “love” itself.

If you don't believe me you can ask Paul he will refer you to his letter of the Corinthians when he simply assures us that love endures long and is patient and kind; love is not envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.

Which is why love must be associated with bonding. Bonding must be done with discretion and careful consideration with whom and for what you bond. Healthy bonding is a union of two distinct people, with independent personalities and caring for each other unconditionally. Without bonding no feeling can truly be realised.

Love comes with sacrifices; when there is true love and bonding between people there is no door for disperse. Let love develop from the heart and not the mind, don't think about it, let it be your inner trait.

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